We set goals for ourselves, have big plans, can feel the success, the excitement is there, we’re off and running to a good start and then it all slowly peters out.  Now the frustration sets in and we begin to tell ourselves we can’t succeed.
 
Wrong!
 
You can succeed! All you need is a better action plan.  Staying motivated is partly the secret to reaching our goals.  No matter what our goals are or how detailed we make them, if we can’t find the motivation to take consistent action, success will be difficult. However, if we can stay motivated and push through the tough times, breaking those bad habits that hold us back, well, anything is possible.
 
Multiple research studies have shown that many entrepreneurs will average a 3 – 5% failure rate for every success.  But, they didn’t give up. They pushed through their weaknesses and eventually succeeded. That took motivation on their part. Without the same motivation, that they had, we get stuck in neutral, and then become filled with regret, anxiety and fear.
 
Below are some strategies that will help you to keep your motivation going so that you can achieve your goals. 

1. No Distractions
This seems obvious but most of us feel that having our cell phone nearby, the Internet or a tv/radio running in the room won’t cause a problem but that’s far from the case. Shut everything off!  There is no urgent need to check Twitter or Facebook for the latest happenings! If it’s on and nearby you will do that.   Keep it all off.
 
2. Find a new Location
Don’t work where familiar distractions will thwart your effort to work.  Go to a coffee shop, the library, the conference room at your work or a table at the park. By moving to a different location there is nothing handy for you to grab, read, or turn on as a way to escape your work. 

3. Don’t Procrastinate
This isn’t an easy one. People tend to put off what they don’t want to do.
 
Try the 15-minute rule.  Use your smartphone or smart watch (the one I told you earlier to keep off – ha!)  and set the timer for 15 minutes. Tell yourself that you’ll work at your task for those 15 minutes with no distractions. Then you can take a break.  In most cases, you will go beyond the 15 minutes and stay with what you are working on.  The most difficult part is getting started.
 
4. Break it down and make a To-Do list
Take your big project and cut in down into smaller chunks. Then put small to-do items on a list. When we look at the enormity of our project it can be overwhelming. So take a small portion of it and put it on a list to get done that day. Make sure it’s doable for that day.  Every small piece you get completed moves you closer to your goal.
 
5. Create a Weekly Action Plan
Schedule time in your appointment book to work on your project - just as you would schedule a meeting. Break your project down in small increments and plan time over the week to work on it.  If we don’t plan ahead we tend to whittle the day away by telling ourselves we’ll get to it later.  Pick a time, schedule it, and then attend your own meeting of getting your work done.  Know that the meeting time has an end and when you reach your ending time feel free to move away from your work area and go for a walk.  Remember, you have scheduled another meeting with yourself in a day or two, which you can get back to working on your goal.
 
6. Dispel your Fears
There are over 12,000 to 50,000 thoughts that run through our minds in a given day, according to The National Science Foundation. We’re unaware of most of those thoughts as they take place in the subconscious mind. But, a large portion of our thoughts is fear-based. What if this happens?  Or what if that happens? What will I do if this occurs? What if I lose my job?
 
We ask ourselves fear-based questions without even consciously being aware of it. For that reason, if we want to get and stay motivated, we have to dispel our fears.
 
Write down all of your fears and why you’re afraid of those things.  Then, create an excuse explaining why each of those reasons isn’t true.  Think about past experiences where you’ve pulled through or accomplished something you didn’t think was possible.  Focus on your successes of the past!  There’s real power to bringing the subconscious fears into the conscious and dispelling them.
 
7. Visualize your Future
Once you have your goals, you can get and stay motivated by visualizing your future. What will life be like when you achieve your goals? Where will you live? What will you do for work? What will you enjoy in your free time? What places will you travel to? Spend some time visualizing your future by writing out a detailed description of how life will be like when you achieve your long-term goals.
 
8. Find a Mentor 
A great way to avoid losing motivation is to find a mentor. Mentors can help us in so many ways. And while there’s no one specific way to find a mentor, you should certainly get out there and locate one that can help push you and inspire you to achieve your dreams.
 
Whether it’s a successful businessperson that you meet through a friend, or someone in your family, find someone who can help coach you along.
 
Keep in mind that success won’t be easy no matter what. It’s easy to lose motivation for anyone. But turning to a mentor can help to bring all that hard work you’re doing into perspective.
 
9. Channel the Little Engine That Could 
A person’s drive is often based on what she believes about her abilities, not on how objectively talented she is, according to research by Albert Bandura, a professor of psychology at Stanford University. His work has shown that people who have perceived self-efficacy (that is, the belief that they can accomplish what they set out to do) perform better than those who don’t.
 
“Self-efficacy beliefs provide the foundation for human motivation, well-being, and personal accomplishment. This is because unless people believe that their actions can produce the outcomes they desire, they have little incentive to act or to persevere in the face of difficulties. Much empirical evidence now supports Bandura’s contention that self-efficacy beliefs touch virtually every aspect of people’s lives—whether they think productively, self-debilitatingly, pessimistically or optimistically; how well they motivate themselves and persevere in the face of adversities; their vulnerability to stress and depression, and the life choices they make.” (Pajares, 2002)
 
10. Be Consistent 
It’s important to be consistent with your work, "take consistent action every single day." This means that even if you're totally not in the mood, do one small proactive thing that will move you towards your ultimate goal — even if it's just a Tweet.
 
Staying motivated is absolutely within your reach — it's often just about keeping your end goal in mind and breaking down the larger end result into manageable smaller steps. Remember — you can do it!




​Liz Birch is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and certified Master Hypnotist who provides psychotherapy and hypnotherapy services at her office in Tustin, CA.  Her areas of expertise are in communications, relationships, marriage strengthening, stress reduction, depression, trauma, anxiety, anger, personal growth and ptsd.  Her website address is LizBirchTherapist.com. ​​​

People are meant to be social beings. When we have someone else to care about we live better, healthier and longer lives. However, many of us don’t realize the importance of connecting with others. Connections can help our businesses grow and enhance our personal life.  Connections can alleviate that sense of loneliness.

Olds and Schwartz (Associate Clinical Professors of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School) argue in The Lonely American that loneliness is often mistaken for depression. Instead of connecting with others, we consume a pill. Being lonely is outside of our individualistic world view so we don’t even see it as a problem.

So if I load myself up with tons of connections will I be happier and live longer?  Not necessarily.  It’s not the number of connections one has but the quality of connections. If you want to enhance your business look to connect with individuals who are career minded and successful.  If you want to enhance your personal life you might want to look for individuals who are supportive, caring and willing to listen during tough times.   And you may want to include others who are a combination of the two. 

In order to find those connections you need to, at first, work in numbers.  Don’t just talk to one person and then decide that person isn’t right for you because you will then end up back to having no connections.  So work at making lots of connections, initially, then you can choose who is right for you. 

So how do we connect with others? 

1. Get yourself out there -  You’re not going to find connections by staying at home or in the office.  Attend lectures and conferences related to your line of work.  Go to city chamber events and make connections with other businesses in your area. Talk to the person next to you in line at the theatre, ask for directions, get their suggestions for a good place to eat for lunch.  Volunteer in your community! Begin talking to people!
2. Use Social Media - Reply to others comments, share the work you are doing, discuss your hobby. Write articles or blogs about topics that interest you.  The more you get your name out there, the more you talk about your business, or your hobby, the greater chance others will see you and want to connect with you. 
3. Be genuine. Connect with others that you truly care about. If you don’t have a genuine interest in the person with whom you’re trying to connect, they will see that, so stop trying.
4. Reach Out - It’s amazing how many people truly want to help others. If you know someone above you don’t be afraid to reach out to them. Ask them for advice.  Let them know how much you respect what they have done or the image they portray.  Ask them how they became successful.  They may just offer you help that you didn’t expect.  But, if you never reach out then that opportunity may be very slim to come by. 
5. Pay attention - Get to really know others. Pay attention to what they write about or what hobbies they excel. Do your research and read articles, learn backgrounds and invest genuine time in learning what matters to them. When they realize how much you have invested in them and getting to know them it will greatly increase your odds of making a fantastic connection.
6. Stand Out -  Find ways to stand out from the others. Did you have a great meeting with someone, either on the phone or in person? Send a thank you note for their time. It’s amazing how many forget to do this yet it is so important. It lets them know you value their time.  Is someone impressed with your business?  Invite them to your office, show them around and share how you do things. Be proud of what you do.  It’s a personal connection.  For more personal connections send birthday and holiday cards. Write a note stating you are thinking of them. Trust me when it comes time to connect you will definitely be remembered. 

As you go through your day, pay attention to others around you.  You’ll be amazed at how many connections are out there for you to make.



​Liz Birch is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and certified Master Hypnotist who provides psychotherapy and hypnotherapy services at her office in Tustin, CA.  Her areas of expertise are in communications, relationships, marriage strengthening, stress reduction, depression, trauma, anxiety, anger, personal growth and ptsd.  Her website address is LizBirchTherapist.com. ​