6 Ways To Connect With Others

People are meant to be social beings. When we have someone else to care about we live better, healthier and longer lives. However, many of us don’t realize the importance of connecting with others. Connections can help our businesses grow and enhance our personal life.  Connections can alleviate that sense of loneliness.

Olds and Schwartz (Associate Clinical Professors of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School) argue in The Lonely American that loneliness is often mistaken for depression. Instead of connecting with others, we consume a pill. Being lonely is outside of our individualistic world view so we don’t even see it as a problem.

So if I load myself up with tons of connections will I be happier and live longer?  Not necessarily.  It’s not the number of connections one has but the quality of connections. If you want to enhance your business look to connect with individuals who are career minded and successful.  If you want to enhance your personal life you might want to look for individuals who are supportive, caring and willing to listen during tough times.   And you may want to include others who are a combination of the two. 

In order to find those connections you need to, at first, work in numbers.  Don’t just talk to one person and then decide that person isn’t right for you because you will then end up back to having no connections.  So work at making lots of connections, initially, then you can choose who is right for you. 

So how do we connect with others? 

1. Get yourself out there -  You’re not going to find connections by staying at home or in the office.  Attend lectures and conferences related to your line of work.  Go to city chamber events and make connections with other businesses in your area. Talk to the person next to you in line at the theatre, ask for directions, get their suggestions for a good place to eat for lunch.  Volunteer in your community! Begin talking to people!
2. Use Social Media - Reply to others comments, share the work you are doing, discuss your hobby. Write articles or blogs about topics that interest you.  The more you get your name out there, the more you talk about your business, or your hobby, the greater chance others will see you and want to connect with you. 
3. Be genuine. Connect with others that you truly care about. If you don’t have a genuine interest in the person with whom you’re trying to connect, they will see that, so stop trying.
4. Reach Out - It’s amazing how many people truly want to help others. If you know someone above you don’t be afraid to reach out to them. Ask them for advice.  Let them know how much you respect what they have done or the image they portray.  Ask them how they became successful.  They may just offer you help that you didn’t expect.  But, if you never reach out then that opportunity may be very slim to come by. 
5. Pay attention - Get to really know others. Pay attention to what they write about or what hobbies they excel. Do your research and read articles, learn backgrounds and invest genuine time in learning what matters to them. When they realize how much you have invested in them and getting to know them it will greatly increase your odds of making a fantastic connection.
6. Stand Out -  Find ways to stand out from the others. Did you have a great meeting with someone, either on the phone or in person? Send a thank you note for their time. It’s amazing how many forget to do this yet it is so important. It lets them know you value their time.  Is someone impressed with your business?  Invite them to your office, show them around and share how you do things. Be proud of what you do.  It’s a personal connection.  For more personal connections send birthday and holiday cards. Write a note stating you are thinking of them. Trust me when it comes time to connect you will definitely be remembered. 

As you go through your day, pay attention to others around you.  You’ll be amazed at how many connections are out there for you to make.



I am a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who can provide services with anyone who resides   in the State of California. I have also been trained in Clinical Hypnotherapy which is beneficial for more specific goals.
Liz Birch, LMFT, CHt ~ 714-584-6047 ~ LizBirchMFT@gmail.com

---